i can do "/home bed" fine but when i Respawn at bed it puts me on the roof or surface, whatever is above the bed. i have a 3 block space above the bed. this happens on my other server too.
i could make a video if needed?

Try 3 blocks above and 2 blocks each side

yea. that fixes it.
unhappy with how strict it is though.
but i decided yesterday im not gonna use the essentials.sethome.bed perm
just gonna make people respawn at there first home

The config option force-disable-teleport-safety may help ensure players respawn at the set location.

Doesn't work