forge: 1.14.4-107
EC: embellishcraft-1.14.4-1.4.0
logs:
client:
latest.log
server:
debug.log
latest.log

[08:14:55] [Netty Client IO #1/ERROR]: Terminating connection with server, mismatched mod list

You seems to have a different mod list between your client and your server. Can you try to fix this problem first and see if this still happens?

i updated i can connect again what ever is happening its affecting the world or player because after i reconnect after being on awhile it gives me javaio exceptions

well there is mods removed because client mods

Client side mods shouldn't be a problem. On the server you seems to have remove many mods, maybe the client still has some. Btw the BoP add-on will work with the latest release.

Please provide new logs so it will be easier to see.