I am having a problem with my skin. On my computer it looks female but when my husband looks at me on his computer he sees me as a male. Also when I try to talk to a male villager he says I don't swing that way.

I'm a little confused as to what you mean. If it's an issue with your Minecraft skin, that isn't effected by MCA.

Sounds like you selected Male as your gender when you did the initial screen on MCA. If male villagers are giving you that response, and your husband (who we are assuming selected Male) sees you as a Male, then I would be willing to bet that is the issue.

Don't by any means hold me to this, as I am just drawing this conclusion based on your report above, and my understanding of the mod based on the wiki.