the error is provided by modernfix, and yes after removed sihywtcamd and world no longer freeze. the moment that world freeze is creating new chunk in the same area.
the server log:
2023-11-13-3.log

can i disable somthing in the config to prevent freezing for now? or i need to entirely remove the mod

Sure, you can disable the zombie drowned.guardianJockeySpawn option, which allows baby Drowned to spawn riding a Guardian, and the nether piglin.rideHoglin option, which allows Piglin to spawn riding a Hoglin.
This should be enough. Let me know if it isn't.

NB: Make sure these option are disabled on the server-side.

This is a known issue, see #38. This was fixed in latest version. I may backport the fix for 1.19, but this was not originally planned

I think we can close this issue after a month playing, everything works as intended and have never crashed. And i would likely bump up my minecraft version so no backport hotfix is fine for me, thanks again for the help, love you!