no way to turn it off all together on the 1.20.1 fabric port, makes them unplayable since some dimension mods basically leave you stuck in that dimension with no way out, also should be an option to turn off the item deletion

Yes there is: https://github.com/Suff99/Weeping-Angels/blob/5d1f127835fa635b4878d02eec35e5b1eb9951d1/common/src/main/java/mc/craig/software/angels/WAConfiguration.java#L91

And once again, yes there is:
https://github.com/Suff99/Weeping-Angels/blob/5d1f127835fa635b4878d02eec35e5b1eb9951d1/common/src/main/java/mc/craig/software/angels/common/entity/angel/WeepingAngel.java#L211

i might just be too stupid to figure out how to turn those things off because when i go into the config i dont see any of that

STEALABLE_ITEMS are defined with a datapack, you make a empty datapack to disable

And what config file are you opening?

the config im opening is weeping_angels-common.toml in the config folder

Can you paste its contents here?

[behaviour]
#This section determines the behaviour of the Weeping Angels - if you wish to ban a block from being interacted with by Weeping Angels, you will need to create a datapack and edit weeping_angels:no_breaking
#Determines the range quantum locked entities will check if the player is looking in
#Range: 1 ~ 100
stalk_range = 65
#If enabled alongside the mobGriefing gamerule, angels will interact with blocks that emit light
block_breaking = true

[damage]
#Hurt
#Allowed Values: PICKAXE, PICKAXE_AND_GENERATOR, NONE, GENERATOR, ANYTHING
hurt_type = "PICKAXE_AND_GENERATOR"

[teleporting]
#Determines the range that a player can be teleported from their current location
#Range: > 1
teleport_range = 400
#Determines the chance a player will be teleported
#Range: 1 ~ 100
teleport_chance = 50
#A list of Dimensions that angels cannot teleport players to
banned_dimensions = ["minecraft:the_end"]

theres also a weeping_angels-client.toml one but its only option is enabling santa hats