So after some testing i noticed that when i have Advanced Interface Options loaded, i tick the box "Load out of date AddOns for other addons i have and /reload that setting is now reset or when i tick that box and log out it resets.

Now when i turn off Advanced Interface Options and tick the box "Load out of date Addons" and /reload or logout it stays checked.

Update: hmm it seems to have resolved itself, fishy but thankful ha.